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Find the right Martial art for your Childs potential

Updated: Jul 21, 2023


Allow me to shed light on this matter. It is not uncommon for parents to guide their children toward the path of martial arts, primarily for self-defense. Just like Daniel LaRusso, who faced bullies and sought refuge in the art of empty hands (karate). But let me ask you this: Are your children currently being bullied, or are you concerned about potential harassment in the future?

Now, let me impart this wisdom upon you: Each and every martial art has the potential to teach you the art of self-defense. However, your objective should be to discover a martial art that places a strong emphasis on defense techniques and breaking holds. Some arts lean towards a passive approach, while others embrace the confrontational nature. As parents, it is our desire to avoid having a child known for being overly aggressive or passive. We seek to nurture their abilities and empower them to handle any situation that comes their way.

Therefore, you must seek out arts, programs, and schools that resonate with your own values, ethics, and cultural heritage. Look for those that promote self-esteem and instill the ability to make the right decisions at the right time. Remember, it's not just about physical prowess, but about cultivating character and integrity.

Now, let us delve into the second most common reason parents encourage their children to embark on the martial arts journey: exercise, strength-building, and enhanced coordination.

Undoubtedly, all martial arts excel in these aspects, but it is crucial to consider your child's individual fitness goals. Choose an art that not only provides a comprehensive full-body workout during warm-ups and fitness sessions but also engages the entire body during martial drills. Some arts focus on specific areas such as upper body movements, lower body movements, grabs and holds, close-quarters combat, or force amplification. Seek the art that aligns with your child's aspirations.

Building confidence is another remarkable aspect of martial arts. It teaches etiquette, respect, and self-confidence. Building confidence unlocks untapped potential, builds muscle, and imparts new skills. Many individuals who initially embark on the martial arts journey struggle with low self-esteem or a lack of self-belief. Perhaps that is why you are contemplating martial arts for your child. If so, you must find a program and a teacher who will uplift them rather than tear them down. However, remember that it is not about having your child adopt the exact values of your family.

Instead, seek similar values that will enable your child to comprehend congruency and develop a new skill set to conquer the world, which might not have been effectively communicated to them by their immediate surroundings.

Let us not forget that there is immense value in seeking guidance from mentors outside our immediate circles. Our parents and families possess certain skill sets that they can pass down, but not everything can be learned solely from them. Personally, I have had the fortune of having mentors throughout my life—individuals who are alive and well, whom I have met in person, encountered online, and those who are no longer with us through books and recordings. Knowledge is potential power, my friends, but true power lies in action. Ensure that your children not only walk the walk within the dojo but also talk the talk outside its confines.

Martial arts are not simply a leisurely pursuit. They are disciplined, hierarchical experiences that demand unwavering discipline and self-control for true success, regardless of how relaxed a school may appear. During training, you may encounter instructions that challenge your preconceived notions, just as Mr. Miyagi instructed young Daniel with his "wax on, wax off" technique in The Karate Kid. Initially, Daniel couldn't fathom how waxing a car could possibly relate to martial arts. Yet, as he later discovered, the teacher possessed profound wisdom. Follow your instructor's guidance to the best of your ability. Listen attentively to their instructions and practice diligently. This discipline will not only enhance your martial arts skills but will also transcend into your everyday life. Also remember to ask WHY?

If you or they find it unable to pose these essential question of why to the instructor or coach, you might be training with someone who lacks true expertise or is testing your loyalty. Be discerning and seek the truth.

In the past, many martial artists grew frustrated with the strict regulations imposed on competitions. They yearned for full-contact bouts, testing their techniques against opponents of similar styles. Nowadays, competitors can engage in sparring, utilizing kicks, punches, blocks, and shadow boxing to prepare for various forms of matches, such as point sparring, continuous sparring, no holds barred, full contact, Gi and no-Gi sparring. Due to the origins of most martial arts lying within full-contact and competitive arenas, many martial artists naturally gravitate toward ringcraft.

However, it's important to note that not all arts are designed with competition or combat in mind. Each school or program may have different expectations for each belt or level they teach. It's crucial to ascertain what these expectations are. Explore and inquire about the specific focus and goals of each school or program to ensure they align with your own aspirations and intentions.

Remember, martial arts are not merely about winning trophies or accolades. They are a journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Embrace the discipline, seek knowledge, and find a path that resonates with your true essence. With determination and an unwavering commitment to your craft, you will transcend the confines of the dojo and manifest the principles of martial arts in all aspects of your life.

Consider your cultural interests, for they can serve as a gateway to a profound martial arts experience. If you possess a deep respect or fascination for a particular culture, immersing yourself in one of their martial arts can be an enriching endeavor. If Thailand captivates your interest, delve into the art of Muay Thai. If the Philippines culture ignites your curiosity, embark on the path of Eskrima, Kali or Arnis. And if you seek a greater understanding of Japanese culture, venture into the world of Karate. By choosing a school taught by a native of that culture or someone who trained directly under their tutelage, you will undoubtedly immerse yourself in an "authentic" instruction that encompasses not only the martial techniques but also the language, mannerisms, history, and philosophy of that culture. It's a holistic journey that goes beyond the physical realm.

When it comes to selecting a school, do not base your decision solely on prices or convenience. You wouldn't want to settle for the school just down the road simply for the sake of convenience. Instead, aim to find a place that will bring out the best in you and has a track record of proven results. Seek out a school that fosters growth, challenges you, and nurtures your potential. Remember, the true value lies not in the price tag but in the quality of instruction and the transformative experience that awaits you.

Embrace the cultural richness that martial arts offer. Immerse yourself in the teachings, traditions, and values of different cultures through the practice of their martial arts. Open your mind, broaden your horizons, and let the journey of martial arts be a gateway to a deeper understanding of the world and yourself.

That's why, when it comes to skill, we embrace the mixed martial arts approach. We draw upon the power of Muay Thai, mastering close-quarter striking. We delve into the art of kickboxing, harnessing the agility and strength of our legs. We immerse ourselves in the sweet science of boxing, honing our hand techniques to perfection. We embrace the grappling arts, learning the intricate locks and holds that bring opponents to submission. And we embrace the wisdom of eskrima, understanding the art of weapons and self-defense.

In the realm of combat, we seek to explore every avenue, to integrate the best of each discipline into a seamless flow. We recognize that true mastery goes beyond the limitations of a single style. By adopting this eclectic approach, we ensure that we are equipped with a versatile arsenal, capable of adapting to any situation that may arise.

Just as water molds itself to its surroundings, we adapt and evolve, drawing from the depths of various martial arts to forge our own unique path. We strive for fluidity, for the freedom to express ourselves without constraint. In the spirit of Bruce Lee, we embrace the essence of combat, transcending boundaries and embracing the totality of martial arts.

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